What is love?
The dictionary defines love as follows: “Love is unselfish, loyal, and the benevolent concern for others.”
What is infatuation? “To inspire with intense, or short-lived, passion.”
Check out 1 Corinthians 13:4 (the first verse of the famous Love Chapter):
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Do you believe the saying “Love is blind” is a true statement?
It’s not a true statement. No where in the Bible does it say that love is blind. In fact, it says the opposite. Love is patient, kind, generous, protecting, trusting, polite, caring…not blind. But lust — and infatuation — are blind.
(Now for the sake of grammatical correct-ness, I will do the whole love vs. infatuation as an allegory; that is, “love” and “infatuation” are people ^_^ )
Love vs. Infatuation
Love is patient; Infatuation is impatient.
When a boy has liked you for a long time and has been kind to you, he loves you; Infatuation is short-lived and may use a threat, like “if you really love me…”.
Love is generous, towards you and others; Infatuation is selfish.
Love protects you, he because it cares for you; Infatuation leaves you to your own defenses because he only cares for himself.
Love still stands even if there is no physical attraction; Infatuation consists of physical attraction.
Actions of Love
Watch how a boy reacts to pressure. If he’s angry, etc. under pressure, he doesn’t love.
Generosity shows character. It shows character because it shows that he is not thinking only of himself. And observe not only is he generous to you, but to others?
Love is also an act of will. When a guy says he loves you after the first date, they don’t really love you. How can they? They don’t really know you. They don’t know what you’re really like, if they really get along with you.
- 1 John 3:16
Crockpots, Microwaves and Chicken
Girls are like crockpots because they like to think things through, slowly, before making a decision. Boys are like microwaves because they make quick decisions, on-the-fly.
And, as a girl in my youth group so classically stated, “…but chicken tastes better in a crockpot!” 😉
Nothing (almost) is more attractive to a girl than to watch a guy worshipping God!
Love and Respect by Emersons
For Young Women Only by Lisa A. Rice
I hope you’ve learned a lot and enjoyed reading Pure Love: Part 1!
Next week we’ll be talking about…
…a lot of stuff. 🙂
…the true love quiz
…who we are
…and more; I just don’t know all the categories 🙂
Keep checking back!